The No-BS Guide to Confidence

Let’s be honest—most advice on confidence is complete BS.

Just be yourself. (Cool, but who even is that?)

Fake it till you make it. (So… just lie?)

Stand in a power pose for two minutes, and you’ll feel unstoppable. (Right, because confidence comes from pretending to be a superhero.)

If that actually worked, every woman who forced a smile, recited affirmations, or strutted into a room like she owned it would actually feel powerful.

But most don’t.

That’s because real confidence isn’t a performance—it’s a state of being.

It’s not about acting like you’ve got it all together. It’s about actually feeling solid in who you are. It’s about walking into a room without needing to “prove” anything because you already know your worth.

This isn’t the fluffy, feel-good advice you’ve heard a million times.

This is the No-BS Guide to Confidence—because you don’t need more tricks to seem confident. You need the real thing.

What Confidence Actually Is (And what it’s not)

Confidence is not about being the loudest person in the room. It’s not about being perfect, always knowing what to say, or never feeling nervous.

Confidence is quiet, unshakable self-trust. It’s a deep knowing that you can handle whatever comes your way, whether that’s a tough conversation, a big career move, or walking into a room full of strangers.

It’s the difference between,

Forcing confidence vs.

Feeling it.

Seeking validation vs.

Owning your worth.

Overthinking how you come across vs.

Simply being yourself.

The best part?

When you have real confidence, people feel it. And you don’t have to do a damn thing to prove it.

The 5 Confidence Killers (That No One Talks About)

Most people don’t lack confidence—they’ve just been conditioned to doubt themselves. If you struggle with confidence, chances are you’re stuck in one of these traps:

1. Trying to “Think” Your Way Into Confidence

You cannot overanalyse your way into feeling powerful. Confidence isn’t a thought, it’s a felt experience. You have to live it, embody it, and trust it—not sit around wondering if you’re “doing it right.”

2. Relying on External Validation

If you need other people to approve of you before you can feel confident, you’ll always be at their mercy. Confidence that depends on applause, compliments, or social media likes is not real confidence—it’s insecurity in disguise.

3. Being at War With Yourself

You can’t hate yourself into confidence. If your inner dialogue sounds like a toxic coach screaming, “You’re not good enough, you need to be better,” that’s not motivation—that’s self-sabotage. Confidence comes from having your own back, not tearing yourself down.

4. Thinking Confidence Means Having No Fear

Confident people still feel fear. They still have moments of doubt. The difference? They don’t let those feelings run the show. Confidence is about acting anyway, even when fear is in the passenger seat.

5. Waiting Until You “Feel Ready”

Spoiler alert:- You will never wake up one day feeling 100% ready to take that leap, speak your mind, or put yourself out there. Confidence is built through action—not by waiting for some magical moment where all self-doubt disappears.

How to Build Unshakable Confidence

So, if faking it doesn’t work, what actually does?

1. Shift from “Thinking” Confidence to Feeling It.

Here’s the thing—Confidence isn’t just a mindset shift. It’s an embodied shift.

You can tell yourself “I am confident” all day, but if you don’t really believe it (subconsciously) and don’t FEEL that way, your energy will give you away.

Embodied confidence means confidence that lives in your body, not just your head. It’s about feeling strong, grounded, and present—not just looking like you are.

When confidence is EMBODIED,

You don’t think you’re powerful; you feel powerful.

You don’t force strong body language; you naturally hold yourself with presence.

You don’t pretend to be confident; you are confident.

Confidence isn’t something you perform. It’s something you Embody.

2. Build Inner Stability So Confidence Feels Natural

If you’re constantly doubting yourself, it’s not because you lack confidence—it’s because you lack inner stability.

Real confidence comes from knowing that, no matter what happens, you’ve got you. You don’t need external reassurance because you already trust yourself to navigate whatever comes up.

Confidence isn’t about eliminating fear or self-doubt. It’s about knowing that even when they show up, you’re still solid.

3. Drop the Stories That Keep You Small

Confidence isn’t something you add—it’s what naturally emerges when you stop carrying all the crap that weighs you down.

If deep down you believe:-

“I have to prove myself to be worthy”

“I’m not good enough unless I succeed”

“People will judge me if I take up too much space”

…then no amount of pep talks will make you feel confident.

Confidence isn’t built by stacking achievements on top of insecurity—it’s built by clearing the insecurity at the root. That means questioning the BS stories that keep you small and choosing new ones that actually serve you. And in order to do that you need to question those limiting beliefs by getting into the root of it by doing shadow work.

4. Own Your Worth (Like, Actually Feel It)

Your body language will always reflect what you believe deep down. You don’t have to force “strong posture” if you truly feel strong within yourself. You don’t have to fake a confident voice if you actually trust your voice.

Confidence isn’t about looking powerful—it’s about feeling powerful from the inside out. And when that happens? You don’t have to “perform” confidence anymore. You are confidence.

The No-BS Truth About Confidence

Real confidence isn’t about tricks, hacks, or pretending to be someone you’re not. It’s about:-
Being fully present instead of stuck in your head.
Building inner stability so confidence feels real.
Changing the limiting beliefs that hold you back.
Owning your worth—not just in your mind, but in your entire being.

It’s not about being fearless.
It’s not about always having the perfect words.
It’s not about looking confident while secretly doubting yourself.

Confidence is trusting yourself so deeply that you no longer need to “prove” anything to anyone.

And once you embody that?

Everything Changes.