Feelings- Language of the Soul

We all want someone who understands us. Someone whom we can communicate with us not just on a physical level but on a soul level. Someone who feels us and clearly understands what we want without the use of words. 

 But how often is it that we ourselves are attuned to our own emotional guidance system in such a way? 

 We are always running away from feeling unpleasant emotions. 

 We think of smoking a cigarette when we feel stressed.

 We binge eat when facing some uncomfortable feeling like helplessness or hopelessness.

 Or that when we feel a trigger we find ways to distract ourselves. 

 All of this is totally normal as per the set standards of today’s world but is it really serving us? 

 We are back again on the same treadmill of going about with our feelings in an attempt from escaping them.

 Each one of us, myself including is looking for the magic pill that can make me not feel the negative feeling that I am feeling. 

 We are ready to splurge on a shopping spree, medicinal drugs, unplanned vacations and what not only to not feel that unpleasant feeling that we are running away from. 

 But my question is, 

 Has it really worked though? 

 Have you permanently gotten rid of that said feeling? 

 We are often taught to ignore our feelings and if we do not feel “happy” 24*7 then something is wrong. It is as if it is not okay to not be okay! 

 But is it really possible? I would say don’t even try doing that because honestly, it is quite an unrealistic expectation. 

 It is said that Change is the only constant. But have you ever wondered why is it that when I feel bad, each and every time it feels the same? Why doesn’t that change?  

Though we can transcend the emotion how we actually feel always remains the same. The intensity of that very feeling never changes. Anybody who has experienced perpetual panic attacks knows exactly what I am talking about. But so is true when we are feeling on top of the world. 

 Life is a wonderful rollercoaster of experiences. Comprising of both good and bad. How we feel in any given moment dictates our state of being. It is when we experience positive emotions such as happiness, joy, and excitement can we say we feel good. And quite contrary to it, when we come across negative situations, ones that cause us sadness, anger and pain we feel negative emotions. 

 Our emotional guidance system is like a rainbow. The entire spectrum of this rainbow has various colours of many different shades. Each colour is unique in its own way. No colour is better or worse than any colour. So is every emotion and the feelings we feel when we experience it. Every feeling we feel is valid. It may not be the actual truth or accurate. But it serves an important purpose. The said negative feeling holds immense value. Only when you stop running from it and embrace it can you know what it has to say or why was it even haunting you in the first place. 

 For doing that you first need to tap into your emotions. Your emotions are the carriers of personal truth. It is only when you completely immerse yourself in it that can you be able to pinpoint what that said feeling has to say. 

 We live in a world today where there are ample distractions. Many will literally go to various lengths to numb themselves so that they may not feel that negative emotion they are actually feeling. 

 Guess what, it is a dead-end! 

 I was in the same boat. I tried so many things from guilt eating to shopping sprees to talking to astrologers to taking therapy to try all sorts of distractions only so as to escape my inner void. 

 Nothing really worked. Every good feeling I experienced so as to escape that unpleasant feeling was temporary. It was a vicious cycle. Every single time that I tried doing it, I felt frustrated and betrayed. 

 And one fine day, I stopped doing it. I let myself be consumed by my feelings. I let myself off this unhuman expectation of always wanting to feel good. 

 One such spiritual practice that I have committed myself lately to is being attuned to my feelings. I am ready to be with myself irrespective of whether I feel a negative feeling or a positive one. 

 Consider your feelings like a compass. A compass that is perfectly tailor-made as per your soul purpose. Now each and every emotion that you feel carries an important message. Not just the positive ones but also the negative ones. 

You cannot blame the compass and think it is faulty if all you ever experience is negative emotions. I thought the same for a very long time. 

Until and unless you tune into it and go according to what direction the compass is showing you to take, you will always be astray. 

 This is how the human emotional system works. Even before the child is born, when it is in the mother’s womb it experiences the world through felt perception. It feels each and every sensation that the mother feels and acts accordingly. And even after it is born, before he/she learns to speak, how he/she feels is the way a child navigates through life. 

If the child is hungry, he/she will cry and that is how the mother will know that the child is hungry. 

If the child feels excited, he/she will start laughing. 

If the child is agitated, he/she may show tantrums. 

How is the mother able to understand this? 

Because the mother is attuned to her child’s emotions. She not only understands but also feels each and every signal that the child gives. 

 Sadly once the child grows up he/she is told to discard the way he/she feels. As if they are delusional for even entertaining them in the first place. Soon, the child learns that their feelings cannot be trusted as they pose a threat to them in connecting them with their parents. 

 Unfortunately, this is what the entire human race is been trained to do. 

 We are told to swallow our feelings and move on with life. Because doing that is considered a sign of weakness.

 Though women are more intuitive, they too feel ashamed to tune into their emotions henceforth their feelings. In the thought that if I am not feeling right, probably there is something wrong with me. 

 But seriously, how can the compass ever be wrong? If you’re left astray then it is time you start looking at things differently and be open to the idea that probably it is not the compass but your own way of interpreting it wrong, is wrong. 

 One thing I can assure you is that your body is never against you. It is always trying to protect you. Even when you’re faced with challenging emotions and feelings. Though you may not completely understand this now it is wanting to heal you so that you can experience life in its totality!